Q:  One of my best friends from home is visiting for Frolics. I’m super excited to see her and for Frolics itself, but I’m a little nervous about introducing my home best friend to my new friends here. What if they don’t get along? Any advice? 

Dear Reader,

First of all, I’m so glad that you’re excited for Frolics! I’m sure it will be a blast. That being said, introducing important people from different parts of your life can feel a bit overwhelming and like two worlds are colliding. Just take a deep breath. You’re not alone in this, and the good news is… this situation is super common! Here’s how to make the meetup smooth, low-stress and fun.

Before the visit even starts, prep both sides a little. Share some stories with each group about the other—highlight the things they might have in common, or mention inside jokes (without making anyone feel left out). When your home friend hears about your hilarious roommate or what everyone is wearing for Shrolics, it won’t feel like she’s walking into a room full of strangers. Likewise, your college friends will feel more familiar with her if they’ve heard your stories about the time you two got lost on a road trip or how they’re both obsessed with the same show.

It’s also important to keep your expectations light. Sometimes, we put pressure on moments to be perfect. You could be imagining your home and college friends instantly bonding, laughing together and becoming best friends. That might happen—but it’s also okay if they don’t click in that magical way. Your friends don’t need to become lifelong friends with each other; they just need to get along well enough for the weekend. Let go of any idea that it has to be a “love at first hangout” situation.

The good news is that you don’t have to worry about planning your own activities. Frolics is the perfect time for your friends to meet! Music, food, games and a lively atmosphere create the ideal backdrop for people to bond without forced small talk or extra awkwardness and pressure.

One common challenge is feeling like you have to divide your attention equally at all times. Instead of bouncing back and forth between friends, try bringing them into the same conversations. Be the bridge. Help them find common ground, but also allow yourself to relax and enjoy the moment. If you’re having fun, your friends will pick up on that energy. 

Just remember, you’re the common denominator here, and that’s no small thing. These people love you for a reason. Even if their personalities are different or they come from different worlds, chances are they’ll be open to getting to know each other simply because you matter to them.

So go enjoy Frolics. Introduce your worlds. Laugh off any awkward moments and know that it’s all part of the adventure. Most of all, give yourself some credit—it’s pretty special to have amazing people in your life who you care enough about to bring together.

Wishing you the best of luck,

Annabel Groseclose ‘27